You Matter!!!

We are all born into this world innocent and mindless.

We are all born into this world innocent and mindless. We are dependant on our caretakers to teach us what we need to know. What we are taught by our caretakers, our teachers and the social structure of our culture takes shape on a blank canvas that becomes our personality as we grow.

We are taught as children what is acceptable behavior and what is not. We are taught to conform to become socially acceptable in the eyes of our parents, our peers and in public. The foundational teachings we learn in early childhood seems to establish a deep-seated belief that conditions us to seek love, approval, and acceptance from other people in order to feel good enough about ourself, to feel worthy of attention and to feel of value in our world.

I can tell you that when a child is abused, locked in a closet, beaten nearly to death, shunned, ignored, disrespected, defiled, violated, blown off or unacknowledged repetitively they begin to feel as if they don’t matter.  Some of us feel invisible, unworthy, unloveable, unwanted or not good enough.

Some feel as if no one sees them, others don’t wish to be seen.  They feel as if they don’t fit, no one understands them and that no one really hears them. Some stay in the background, blend into the walls and watch in silence. Others believe that no one cares if they live or die, no wants them around and no one cares about what they think or what they are feeling anyway.

Repetitive events of abuse tend to ignite a mental thinking pattern of their parents’ voices evoking a cycle of self-judgment, self-criticism, shame and unwarranted guilt that takes them down a very dark road and drops them off into a pit of depression, apathy, anxiety, and self-destruction.

Some adapt and manage to become functional. You see them on the streets. You see them at the checkout counter in your local store, you even speak with them in your office…but you wouldn’t notice them as an abuse survivor if you didn’t know their story. Some become abusive to others and to themselves.

As they grow into adults, they begin to wonder why they do the things they do and why they think the way they do. No one has ever told them that it doesn’t have to stay that way. No one ever taught them how to heal their old wounds. So let me share this to those who still wonder and wander aimlessly for answers…

STOP! Stop the mindless repetitive parent tape rolling around in your head!

Push the eject button, pull out the damn tape and burn that sucker…

Now repeat this to yourself…every time it tries to replay in an echo anyway.

YOU MATTER!

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YOU MATTER MORE THAN YOU KNOW…

What you Think Matters.

What you Feel Matters.

Your Voice Matters.

Your Life, Your Dreams and Goals Matter!.

You would not have been born in this world

…if you were not meant to be here.

You don’t need to strive to BE someone

…because you ARE someone!

You are here for a reason.

Your existence has a purpose.

You are here to learn, to evolve and to be the best that you can be.

You just need to Dream it into existence.

Author: RM Weldon

I am a wife, mother, an aspiring author, and a woman who has come a long way on her life's journey, to heal from the effects of childhood abuse. It is my hope you will walk with me awhile as the story unfolds.

11 thoughts on “You Matter!!!”

    1. Hello Kally! Pleasure to meet you. Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. I was deeply inspired to share this message and I am grateful you found it inspiring. You Matter, and there are many others out there who need to Know that.

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  1. Thank you for this beautiful reminder, Renee. Many times in my life I have felt invisible. Not until I had a medical event that pushed me over the edge and into therapy did I realize that I am not invisible and my thoughts and feelings do count. I have always been trying to please everyone. The first time that I had to take a stand for myself using the tools I learned in therapy was very scary. People were infuriated by it but I had to stand tall. That moment changed who I am and also changed the way others treated me. What a journey it has been. I found my voice and realized that I had to teach others that I am valuable and I will not be abused any longer. The result has been tremendous. I am finally no longer invisible and I finally get the respect that I deserve.

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    1. I understand the feeling of being invisible. It is difficult to break old patterns sometimes, and yes, women from many generations back have been taught to appease and please, establishing the off-kilter paradigm many women still face today. It hurts to hear that it took a medical event to push you toward the realization, but it was needed to get you to the door of therapy. Standing up to stand your ground and to find your voice to speak up was a remarkable pivot point in your life. How wonderful for you because all human beings matter….and YOU truly DO MATTER!

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